In this day and age, we are constantly bombarded by things, people, technology and forced to communicate at every hour. There was a time where phones didn’t rule our lives. I was the last generation that grew up without having technology in my home or daily life. It was glorious! If we didn’t know the answer to something you trusted whatever your parents told you and that was that! We used books to do research and encyclopedias as the holy grail for information (the original google). I even used to write out my research papers and then walk to the library to type it up. Needless to say, it was a time where we communicated more in person and lived in our own worlds instead of other people’s (thanks social media).
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to really respect where I need space and giving it to myself. I don’t really experience ‘fomo’ anymore because I know I am doing what I need to feel my best and most like myself. I have come to really enjoy my own company. Focusing on how to preserve my energy for what lights me up instead of things that drag me down. Something I learned long ago from a friend of mine was that he was always open to trying new things, but if he ever wanted to leave a situation than that’s just what he did and he didn’t feel bad about it. Talk about high self worth! I know we have the sense of obligation a lot of times in life. You’re out with friends and you want to be fun and have a good time, but if you ever feel like leaving and going home then you shouldn’t feel guilty about it.
Life and socializing tend to put a lot of pressure on us to be a certain way. When you are clear about what really matters to you, it’s easier to see the bigger picture and put yourself first. Thinking about yourself isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. At the end of the day, your relationship with yourself is the most important thing so doing everything you can to make yourself happy is called “self-care” not “selfish.” Having boundaries in place will help you stay grounded and centered throughout all areas of your life.
P.S. These are super helpful when it comes to the holidays!
3 ways to set healthy boundaries
The art of saying “no”
If it’s not a “hell yes” then it’s a “no.” Reconsider what your comfort zone is. Take the time to look at what and who you surround yourself with and pay attention to how everything makes you feel. If there is an event or gathering you want to say “no” to don’t feel bad. Your self-care practice is about how you’d like to use your energy. There are many ways to say “no” in a clear and positive way. I have found that if you’re honest about what you want or don’t want, people tend to accept you for that.
Let go of expectations:
We generally feel like we are supposed to be having fun while at a bar with friends or at a family party, but sometimes you’re just not. Like I mentioned above, if you’re not having a good time or your simply just want to go home, don’t ever feel bad for needing space to feel like yourself. Life is too short to be doing something that’s not enjoyable!
Taking care of your self
Making sure you have a self-care practice is essential to life, but also to knowing what you want. It helps you prioritize things and people that make you feel authentic and joyful. If taking a bath on a Saturday night sounds more fun than going out, then do it! Be you doing what lights you up! It creates magnetism and positive energy that only comes naturally when you are in high self worth.
What have you said “no” to lately that made you feel good?!